I hesitated to answer because I don't consider myself a slash writer (though I'm writing slash), so I can't talk from inside, as it were. But the same problem can be seen in het, and gen (haven't read much femmeslash!). I've seen it in the three 'genres', as I've seen classism, and racism, and ablism, and homophobia. And yeah, we see them because those people have been raised in our society, which has those problems.

You almost made me cry (I'm very emotional, yeah)--it's very eloquently written, and very moving. And true.

My only 'but' is this: what does it mean, for us to love them? Because though I've seen a lot of hate directed their way, I've seen also a lot of... 'hey, this is a problem', 'hey, I think you should think more about this'... and I think that's necessary. Because yes, they're (we're) as much 'victims' of the system as everyone--that doesn't change the fact that if you start reinforcing the system, you also become part of it. There are no 'pure' evil people who do it because they're evil. There's only people being raised in our society and never thinking of questioning it--or being so comfortable in their own situation that they don't want to. So I think that questioning it, in ourselves and our peers, is part of loving ourselves and our peers.