I'm not out to punish anyone, but I did state my feelings about their behavior and attitudes in public. I'd be surprised if none of the women reading this have ever had self-destructive thoughts where they've held themselves up against an impossible, gendered ideal, or judged other women according to that ideal.

Perhaps my hyperbole read a bit too literally for you. That's the danger of communicating in writing :-)
I can still love and respect a person even if I disagree with some of her ingrained attitudes, for the record.

I was exaggerating a bit, because I find it problematical when feminists police women according to their value for "the cause". I've read some extreme and aggressive opinions about Katy Perry that have sickened me, and I don't ever want to go there.