It is not an artifact just of fandom, but of the world at large.

Thanks for posting this. Some people seem to be missing the point that the problem isn't just this fan, or her circle of supporters, or SPN J2 fandom, or even SPN fandom. It's them and it's everyone else in fandom who doesn't think about these kinds of things, isn't aware, and doesn't have anyone to slap them out of their insensitivity.