Another Day, Another Mansplainer

Sep. 30th, 2014 08:59 am
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A friend of mine posted something about catcalling and street harassment. To the absolute shock of … well, pretty much nobody, the very first comment on her post was a guy explaining why women shouldn’t be afraid of catcalling, and isn’t it funny how the women complaining aren’t the ones experiencing the “privilege” of being catcalled in the first place? Also, women wouldn’t be afraid if they carried guns, and the real threat are guys “in a dark van with no windows parked next to your car in the Walmart parking lot.”

His suggestion? “Now what would happen if a woman who’s the center of the cat call took the power back, walked up to the offending rake and asked for his number and told him to show a little respect and maybe if he was lucky she’d let him earn the opportunity to do some real cat calling?”

This is the point where I facepalmed so hard I gave myself a concussion.

Guys, is it really that hard to shut the hell up and listen instead of immediately trying to tell women why they’re wrong about their own lives and experiences?

It’s pathetically predictable.

  1. Woman complains about harassment.
  2. Dudebro feels uncomfortable.
  3. Dudebro tells woman why she’s wrong to feel that way.

Because Dudebro’s discomfort at women complaining about harassment is somehow more important and valid than women’s discomfort about actually being harassed.

The CDC put out a report this year about sexual violence, after completing more than 12,000 interviews. They found that one in five women have been raped in their lifetimes, and 99% of those rapes were committed by men. (The report states that about two percent of men were raped as well, which I strongly suspect is an underestimate. They also found that approximately 80% of those rapes were also committed by men.)

“But I’m not like those other men,” says Dudebro, waving the “Not All Men” flag with righteous pride.

Then stop acting like them.

  • When a woman says she’s uncomfortable with something and wants you to knock it off, stop arguing. Stop telling her why she’s wrong, and stop making excuses to keep doing it.
  • Stop pretending it’s about complimenting women. (Here’s a tip: Compliments don’t go from, “Hey baby” to “Fuck you, you stuck-up bitch” in the blink of an eye.)
  • Stop treating women as objects you’re entitled to instead of people.

You seriously want women to believe you’re not an asshole and a potential threat? Start by shutting up for a minute and actually listening to what women are saying.

Mirrored from Jim C. Hines.

Once upon a Time 4.01

Sep. 30th, 2014 02:22 pm
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Oh cracky fairy tale show of my heart, you're back!

Spoilers would never let Sleepy drive )

Interesting Links for 30-09-2014

Sep. 30th, 2014 12:00 pm

I am back! Can you tell?

Sep. 30th, 2014 10:59 am
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Just spent the weekend with my parents in Devon for my dad's 72nd birthday.

Unlike previous trips, I had a half-decent internet connection - after their previous phone line died completely, and BT were unwilling to go digging through the tons of mud it was buried under to find the break, they discovered that the house had used to have _two_ phone lines (one of them being a business line), and switching to the second line upped their speed from 2MBits to 5MBits. Which, with the modern web, seems to be the difference between "Oh God Nothing Is Loading" and "It's a bit slow, but perfectly usable."

Not that I spent my whole trip on the internet. There was dog-walking to be done. And eating. And watching The Winter Soldier and Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy*. And getting the four WiFi points all working again. And adding the new Sonos speaker we got him for his birthday to the system.

I'm not rich enough to feel that Sonos isn't an extravagance too far, but Good God it's a lovely system to use. It took less than two minutes to go from plugging it in in the kitchen to having it playing music in sync with the one in the dining room. They've clearly spent a lot of time making sure it Just Works.

I also took a few photos over the weekend, and two videos:
Uther would quite like to make friends. The cows are not so sure

Uther does not want to let go of the ball

Uther dreams of pork chops (courtesy of Mike)

There are at least five pheasants that wander across the garden. This one is hoping that there will be leftovers from breakfast

Dad goes looking for ripe tomatoes to fry for breakfast

It's possible that this will last us more than one breakfast

This is when I discovered that the fruit cage** had ripe yellow raspberries in it. I'd never seen a yellow raspberry before

And this is what happens when Uther has waited patiently until we've all finished eating, and Mike had some lamb left over...

*Which are both movies about spies and infiltration and mysteries. And otherwise are as different as two movies can possibly be, while both being very good.
**I should really have taken a photo. But basically it's a series of metal posts in a square 30 feet on a side, with netting all around and over the top to keep the birds out. Except that _something_ has chewed holes in multiple places, so we had to shoo birds out of it a couple of times.

More Fic

Sep. 29th, 2014 10:27 pm
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[[Over 40,000 words in a little under a month. The hell?]]

Chapter Six of “I’ve Traveled All this Way for Something” is up at AO3.

Chapter Six: Learning As You Go

"You wanna try this?"

Buster's been watching them play for about an hour and while he thinks he's got the general idea, he knows he's nowhere near as good as they are. "I'd just slow you down, Sir."

"I give it another week or so of him watching us play," Lincecum says. "Then he'll be kicking our asses."

"Politely," Hunter says.

"And very respectfully, Sir."

He's not here to be funny but it's still nice to be able to joke and have them laugh. "Why don't you get your respectful ass over here," Lincecum says.

"What the fuck? You asshole, I'm ahead by four runs, so, what, all of a sudden you've got the urge to play with him?"

"Dude," Lincecum says as Buster kneels in front of him. "It's not fucking real time. The game's not going anywhere."

"Yeah, well, neither is Buster."

"Oh he's going somewhere all right," Lincecum says. "Over my lap."

Daily Happiness

Sep. 29th, 2014 09:16 pm
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1. I got Irene hooked on Brooklyn Nine-Nine! :D :D :D

2. Busy day today doing non-work stuff, but it was still nice to have a day off.

3. Got two of the three scanlations I need to post by the end of the month posted and should be able to post the third tomorrow no problem.

4. The kitten has been seeming like she doesn't feel too well for the past couple days, and then this morning I found tapeworms coming out of her butt. >:( So we took her in to the vet this afternoon and got her some worm pills and flea stuff (the fleas are what got her the worms yay). Hopefully she will be feeling better soon.

New fic! For everyone!

Sep. 29th, 2014 09:52 pm
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Hey, folks!

So the Narnia Fic Exchange 2014 just opened, and you all should check it out. There are over two dozen stories posted, including stories about the Pevensies, and Polly and Digory, and Eustace, and Bacchus. There are AUs, and there's some porn, and some awesome world-building, and even a few crossovers.

Go read!n

(There are also two stories by me, at least one of which is really obviously by me. But I won't say which.)

Scanlations: Himegoto ch. 26

Sep. 29th, 2014 09:12 pm
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Title: Himegoto
Original Title: ヒメゴト~十九歳の制服~ (Himegoto~Juukyuu Sai no Seifuku~)
Author: Minenami Ryou
Publisher: Big Comics
Genre: Seinen
Status in Japan: 7 volumes, ongoing
Scanlator: Megchan's Scanlations + Krim + Kurokishi Scans
Scanlation Status: Ongoing
More Info: Baka Updates

Summary: This is the story of three college freshmen with secrets: Yuki, aka Yoshiki, a boyish girl who gets off on wearing her old high school uniform skirt; Mikako, who acts innocent around her classmates, but at night pretends to be a 15-year-old and has sex for money; and finally there's Kaito, who's obsessed with Mikako to the point of dressing up like her.

Chapter Summary: Realizing that Mikako's shadow is always over her and Kaito when they're together, Yoshiki feels more alone than ever.

Chapter 26: Shadow

Scanlation: Yasha ch. 23

Sep. 29th, 2014 07:32 pm
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Title: Yasha
Author: Yoshida Akimi
Publisher: Flower Comics
Genre: Shoujo
Scanlator: Megchan's Scanlations feat. Molly
Status in Japan: 12 volumes, complete
Scanlation Status: Ongoing
More Info: Baka Updates

Summary: Twelve-year-old Sei lives a normal, quiet life on a small island in Okinawa until one day a strange man who seems to know his mother shows up and tries to kidnap him. After that, nothing is normal or quiet in this sci-fi thriller from the author of Banana Fish.

Chapter Summary: While Rin continues to work on his deadly virus, Sei undergoes various tests in the Amamiyas' secret lab.

Chapter 23

Sunrise sex

Sep. 29th, 2014 04:52 pm
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1) We've had some great sunset photos over the years but Mike finally caught some great sunRISE photos last week. Read more... )

2) Some interesting data in this Guardian study of British sex lives.

3) The thing that caught my attention in this study on gender roles was that 1) Male interviewees were paid more for the study and 2) That the process of interviewing was different for the two sexes. Is this irony in action?

4) I never want to read the words "clever fingers" again. (Also, what about knees? Or chins? Are all other body parts intellectually challenged?)

5) So far the only new series we've seen is Gotham which was ok. I have a few more set to record but have been slow to set the DVR. We have so much stuff starting to come back that I haven't been paying much attention to the fall lineup. Read more... )

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Sep. 29th, 2014 04:53 pm
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I wore her out playing fetch with her rattly mouse. Read more... )

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Sep. 29th, 2014 04:40 pm
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Also, I forgot to mention this here: I've got a few open decant circles going on:

* Lilith
* Fatherhood (BPTP)
* Halloweenies

I'm placing the order for the Halloweenies tonight, so I'm still adding bottles for Lilith and the Weenies. (I placed the BPTP order on Saturday, so no more bottles there.)

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Sep. 29th, 2014 04:14 pm
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Mondays, every week, let's celebrate ourselves, to start the week right. Tell me what you're proud of. Tell me what you accomplished last week, something -- at least one thing -- that you can turn around and point at and say: I did this. Me. It was tough, but I did it, and I did it well, and I am proud of it, and it makes me feel good to see what I accomplished. Could be anything -- something you made, something you did, something you got through. Just take a minute and celebrate yourself. Either here, or in your journal, but somewhere.

(And if you feel uncomfortable doing this in public, I've set this entry to screen any anonymous comments, so if you want privacy, comment anonymously and I won't unscreen it. Also: yes, by all means, cheer each other on when you see something you want to give props to!)
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Briefly surfing from my blanket fort of bronchitis and Robitussin to update. I posted to AO3 last night. (Note: Everyone in my household is sick or pregnant. Or at work today, granted. Casa de Seperis is the Plague House and my doctor can't see me until tomorrow morning. Yes, I am a little high right now and coughing is my new job.)

Title: It's the Stars that Lie, 12/12
Author: Seperis
Series: Down to Agincourt, Book 2
Codes: Dean/Castiel
Rating: R
Summary: We fight, we lose, everyone dies anyway, I know. However, I don’t see why, if we're going to fight anyway, we shouldn't believe we're going to win.
Author Notes: Thanks to nrrrdygrrrl and obscureraison for beta services, with advice from [ profile] lillian13, [profile] scynneh, and [personal profile] norabombay.
Thanks to [ profile] bratfarrar for the series name and summary from her sonnet Harry Takes the Field.
Spoilers: Seasons 5, 6, and 7

Series Links:
AO3 - Down to Agincourt
Book 1: Map of the World

Story Links:
AO3 - All, Chapter 1, Chapter 2, Chapter 3, Chapter 4, Chapter 5, Chapter 6, Chapter 7, Chapter 8, Chapter 9, Chapter 10, Chapter 11, Chapter 12
DW - Chapter 1, Chapter 2, Chapter 3, Chapter 4, Chapter 5, Chapter 6, Chapter 7, Chapter 8, Chapter 9, Chapter 10, Chapter 11

it's the stars that lie, 12/12 )

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Sep. 29th, 2014 12:30 pm
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And if you really, really can't think of anyone you'd like to be, consider the Rejected Princesses -- women too awesome (one way or another) for Disney ever to make a movie about them.

the mechanics of the thing

Sep. 29th, 2014 11:16 am
twistedchick: Indiana Jones -it's not the years, it's the mileage (mileage)
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I remember with some nostalgia the voting machines that existed from before WWII up to the 1990s or so. They were big and heavy, metal, made by the Automatic Voting Machine Company. Folded up, you could store it in a closet easily. Unfolded, it *was* a virtual closet, a curtained alcove that you would enter, closing the curtain behind you -- this set the machine for your choices. You would push little levers over the names you wanted. You could change your mind. When you were done, you pushed a button or shoved a lever; the vote was added in mechanically, the levers were returned to their own places, and nobody could interfere with it.

Nobody *could* interfere. If someone wanted to mess with an election, he'd have to be able to break into where the machines were stored, open the back and do a whole lot of things to mess with the gears -- and it wouldn't really be worth the time. Each machine was independent of all others. The votes were recorded on paper with a lot of carbon paper copies behind it-- four or five -- and the election judges would tally the totals from the machines at their site and send them to the Board of Elections -- driving there, and taking along the papers so they could be retained and checked.

In 1985 I covered all the races that were open in one Western New York county, some 69 races from dogcatcher (yes) to US senate. In order to find out the results, I took my calculator to the county Board of Elections and did my own tallies of each race, reading from right to left along the carbon totals, copying everything on paper, bringing it back to the newspaper office and writing up the results. My calculator ran out of batteries at 4 a.m., while I was still working on totals.

Why did we go to electronic voting machines? Greed. Greed for the news, sooner than it takes for humans to add up the results of individual machines, or stacks of punched cards. Even though nobody elected would take office for nearly two months, people want to know *sooner*. Now. This second.

But the problem this year -- in a midterm election, during a time when the economy is wobbly, when many governments have been defunded by Republicans and have little money -- is a bit different than it was. AVM mechanical voting machines did not age the way computers do. AVM machines would, eventually, get metal stress and wear out, or need new parts that could be installed with a screwdriver. Electronic voting machines used now are several years old, running software that is generations behind what is current. They are eminently hackable, using unencrypted centralized Windows software. Nobody seems to have created an update of the software that could be installed.

Why voting machines are about to wreak havoc on another election. Simple answer: software from 2002.

And so, now, there are other issues as well.

In Virginia, up to 200,000 people may not be able to vote because of problems with voter ID. Think about this. Spread this number out among election districts in a rural state. That's enough to change a few races.

I have to wonder if it might be possible to pay Congress by the hour instead of by the term, because these guys have done very little on the clock.

If you live in North Carolina, or any other state with a heavy Republican interest, check the information that you're mailed about voting. Americans for Prosperity -- another Koch brothers enterprise -- are sending out the wrong information. On purpose? You have to ask? Well, maybe they interviewed the cat and it said it wanted to vote?

And in Wisconsin, a troll on Facebook suggested armed poll watchers check to see who supported the movement to recall the governor. This idiocy did not go down well.

How is this not fanfic yet?

Sep. 29th, 2014 09:31 am
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At CIA Starbucks, even the baristas are covert
The new supervisor thought his idea was innocent enough. He wanted the baristas to write the names of customers on their cups to speed up lines and ease confusion, just like other Starbucks do around the world.

But these aren’t just any customers. They are regulars at the CIA Starbucks.

“They could use the alias ‘Polly-O string cheese’ for all I care,” said a food services supervisor at the Central Intelligence Agency, asking that his identity remain unpublished for security reasons. “But giving any name at all was making people — you know, the undercover agents — feel very uncomfortable. It just didn’t work for this location.”

This purveyor of skinny lattes and double cappuccinos is deep inside the agency’s forested Langley, Va., compound.

Welcome to the “Stealthy Starbucks,” as a few officers affectionately call it.

Or “Store Number 1,” as the receipts cryptically say.

The baristas go through rigorous interviews and background checks and need to be escorted by agency “minders” to leave their work area. There are no frequent-customer award cards, because officials fear the data stored on the cards could be mined by marketers and fall into the wrong hands, outing secret agents.

It is one of the busiest Starbucks in the country, with a captive caffeine-craving audience of thousands of analysts and agents, economists and engineers, geographers and cartographers working on gathering intelligence and launching covert operations inside some of the most vexing and violent places around the world.
CIA and coffee shops? Fandom, you disappoint.

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Sep. 29th, 2014 09:20 am
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Take back Halloween, with costumes that are about *real* women. Eleanor of Aquitaine. The Trung sisters. Ixchel. Artemis.

Spider Goddess Giveaway

Sep. 29th, 2014 08:06 am
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Look what came in Friday’s mail:

Spider Goddess ARC

I only have a few print ARCs for Rise of the Spider Goddess, but I’ve managed to set up a Goodreads giveaway for one of them. Click here to enter.

This one is U.S. only, but I plan on doing something else soon for a worldwide giveaway.

In the meantime, I spent some time Friday afternoon chatting with the cover artist about ideas, and he’s planning to have a few sketches for me by the end of this week. I also went through the book to note and correct any problems. There weren’t too many — a handful of typesetting and kerning glitches, and I needed a better dagger graphic. I also had a typo with the release date on the back cover. But so far, I think we’re well on track for that December 2 release date.

I guess I’ll have a novel out this year after all :-)

Mirrored from Jim C. Hines.


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